The school holiday period is one of the most difficult for parents. Who will the child stay with while mom and dad are at work?
There are children who have the chance to stay with their grandparents, but not all are so lucky. So the parents are forced to turn to different solutions: uncles, aunts, friends… If the parents have managed to solve with whom the child will stay, a new problem arises: what will be chosen from all the education of the little one, during this whole period?
Diana Bordeianu, clinical psychologist and psychotherapist, guest on the show Click! For Women, the edition with the title How to build healthy relationships between parents and children? speaks about how parents can proceed during the school holidays to maintain the focus on the education they gave to the little ones, without ending the holiday with big losses.
The psychotherapist recommends that if they cannot call on grandparents or close relatives to stay with the little ones, the most effective choice that parents can make is to take the child to an educational institution that offers an education program during the summer .
But what is even more important, regardless of the option chosen by the parents, they must constantly monitor everything that happens with the little one: what is he doing? How does he behave? How much follows from what she learned from her parents? Apply or not?
“It is important for the parent to understand that, no matter who the child lives with, he is the one who manages the education of the little one. It is wrong to wash one’s hands while the little one is not with him, that a teacher knows what he has to do, or that the grandparents will know well when and how much they have to set some limits, to apply some sanctions when he makes a mistake . Yes, I can give some suggestions to the grandparents, but I always have to communicate with my child, talk to him, know his emotional state, I know when the application of a consequence is necessary, when he makes a mistake. Parents are the ones who guide children and motivate them,” says Diana Bordeianu, clinical psychologist and psychotherapist.
In the interview conducted by Antoaneta Banu, Diana Bordeianu draws attention to the term consequence that she uses. The specialist translates it through the system of stimuli and rewards that a parent offers to a child and how this system can transform from the reward accordingly, to the education of the little one.
Moreover, Diana Bordeianu comes with many examples from her professional experience but also from her personal experience, as a single, divorced mother who had to go through emotional crises from which she herself had a lot to understand and learn.
He recommends all couples going through a divorce, especially where there are children, to ask for specialized help precisely to protect the little one emotionally.
Watch the full edition and you will find answers to the questions:
-how do you involve family members in the upbringing and education of children, during vacations and holidays;
-what do we do when the child is shy;
-how do we react when the child refuses an activity;
-what simple methods do we have to manage conflicts between children;
Diana Bordeianu is the author of the book “Dear Sofia”. She is a clinical psychologist and psychotherapist accredited by the Romanian College of Psychologists with a certificate of independent practice. Diana has over 9 years of experience in assessment, counseling, guidance, and psychotherapy with over 25,000 sessions.
Diana has training in clinical psychology, cognitive behavioral psychotherapy and hypnotherapy, certification in Schema Therapy, basic course in addictions, and basic course in trauma intervention and psychotherapy.