Trust your teen
You already notice in your child, at the same time, childish attitudes combined with mature concerns. And it is precisely this fragile beginning of maturation that makes you have doubts about the decisions that your teenager would make if you gave him too much freedom.
However, the “seven years at home” are not a myth, and the adolescent’s reactions to “challenges” depend a lot on the way you educated your child.
As such, if you have taught your teenager the difference between right and wrong, if you have educated him in such a way that he knows how to choose his friends and not do excesses of any kind, the freedom you will give him is mandatory because him to gain valuable life experiences.
Freedom must be granted gradually
Psychologists are of the opinion that you have to give freedom to the teenager gradually. However, it does not understand the granting of freedom in the wrong way.
A free teenager is not an abandoned teenager, and trust in the child does not preclude discreet control. All teenagers are tempted to violate the imposed limits. But when the limits are too wide and he violates them, you can be perceived by the child as a parent lacking firmness.
Psychologists also draw attention to the fact that, for some teenagers, the total freedom that their parents grant them is perceived as disinterest and equates to a lack of love for children.
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The prohibitions imposed can isolate him
The child’s freedom to attend a group of friends helps him develop his communication skills and contributes to the formation of self-esteem. If you repeatedly refuse him meetings with friends, you risk isolating him socially and turning him into a person who does not have the ability to relate to others.
The consequences can be important for the child’s development, and psychologists warn that isolated teenagers become easily depressed and find it harder to assert themselves, despite the skills they are endowed with.
Sexuality does not have to be taboo
Love, the first sexual gropings and the sadness of the first separation are inherent in adolescence. That’s why you shouldn’t let sex become a taboo subject, nor should you be alarmed when the child is in love. It’s a natural stage of his development and all you have to do is make sure he knows the methods of protection against sexually transmitted infections.
Do not forbid the exploration of sexuality or romantic encounters, but be careful not to talk to the child about sex only from a physical point of view. Bring up the emotional aspects of intercourse and explain that this is something special that happens between two partners who love each other and are ready for it.
Without this freedom to understand sexuality, the child may think that sex is something wrong and could have problems in the couple’s life.
