In terms of anatomy, the differences between boys and girls are obvious, and when it comes to brain development or behavior, the differences begin to emerge gradually over time. These also depend a lot on the perception of adults, on the rules and limitations imposed by society. However, a different approach is needed regarding the education of a child, depending on the gender.
Couples who have two children, a girl and a boy, think more often about the differences and notice that they need to be raised a little differently from each other. Many times, society, the family, those with prejudices put a lot of pressure, especially on mothers, to impose on girls to be submissive and subordinate rather than to take the initiative, and on boys to repress their feelings and do only what they want, without assuming responsibilities, especially domestic ones, when they become husbands. It is important for parents to detach themselves from the patterns imposed by others, in order to avoid the problems that arise in adulthood, frustration, a low self-esteem, in the case of girls, or the lack of independence and respect, in the case of boys
Praise her for her cleverness and let him cry
In terms of behavior, girls tend to imitate more, to be more sensitive, while boys are more adventurous. While girls respond better to auditory stimuli, boys establish eye contact earlier. The development of self-esteem and confidence is essential for all children. Girls conform to the rules more easily, out of a desire to be accepted, that’s why they end up having less confidence in them. Mothers could encourage them, complimenting them not only on their appearance, but also when they prove intelligent, when they take the initiative. Also, boys could be encouraged to speak their mind more often, to cry and not to take risks just to show that they are brave.
Avoid limiting them by gender
They say women are from Venus and men are from Mars. Indeed, boys’ minds are action-oriented, while girls are more empathetic and creative, but parents should not limit their children. From childhood, we tend to give them different toys depending on the gender, but it is not so important that boys play with cars and girls with dolls.
We should let them choose. The child can be raised according to his personality and interests. If a little girl is passionate about soccer, she shouldn’t be forced to do ballet. Also, when a boy shows creativity, let him be allowed to develop this side. In addition, boys enjoy participating in household chores, despite the world’s perception that only girls should do cleaning, ironing and cooking.
Teach them respect for themselves and others
As girls are more attentive to what is said to them verbally, they could be helped to develop their social skills more. Help your little girl to have healthy relationships, in which she will not accept compromises or be treated disrespectfully. Regarding boys, you need to make efforts to help them recognize their feelings and declare them without fear, to be generous with compliments and gifts for their loved ones, in order to express their emotions without fear of being outdated .
Games influence their learning
Most boys tend to lag behind girls when it comes to developing attention, language and fine motor skills, which are essential for good school performance. One area where girls lag behind boys is spatial learning and geometry. Girls tend to use different parts of the brain to process spatial perceptions than boys. An explanation for this fact is that we used boys to play with blocks, to build, and girls to create more role-playing games that use dolls.
Temper his aggressiveness and help her take risks
No matter how much we deny it, boys are physically stronger and become more aggressive, more physically active. Any exhausted mom of a boy can be living proof that boys run more. In addition, mothers discourage aggression and risk-taking more in daughters than in sons. Research Why do we treat them differently? Australian author and psychologist Steve Biddulph has written two separate books on raising children, How to Raise Girls and How to Raise Boys.
In each, Biddulph points out that we treat children differently by gender: “The retinas behind boys’ eyes are made differently so that they notice more movement and less color and texture. Boys grow faster and stronger, but are more affected by separation from their mothers.
And, unfortunately, adults treat boys more harshly. Studies have shown that parents hug girls more and tend to talk less with boys.” showed that the level of sex hormones does not differ much between boys and girls, until puberty. This suggests that parental influence is a factor that amplifies the differences. This is why gender is only a part of who a child is, while his personality will develop in the environment in which he is raised. So let’s not worry about their way of being or their passions, because they will develop at their own pace
Why do we treat them differently?
Australian author and psychologist Steve Biddulph has written two separate books on raising children, How to Raise Girls and How to Raise Boys. In each, Biddulph points out that we treat children differently by gender: “The retinas behind boys’ eyes are made differently so that they notice more movement and less color and texture. Boys grow faster and stronger, but are more affected by separation from their mothers. And, unfortunately, adults treat boys more harshly. Studies have shown that parents hug girls more and tend to talk less with boys.”
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