The path of friendship, the easiest
No matter how rebellious your teenager is, try to be patient with him and show him that you are, before your parent, a good friend.
Listen to him when he comes to you, and when he tells you that he did something wrong, don’t criticize him excessively. Find the best solution together. If you criticize him for the slightest mistake he makes, he will stop telling you the steps, he will distance himself from the family, thinking “Anyway, my mother will yell at me and I better seek support from my friends.”
At the same time, don’t try to be his confidant just for the moment, and after two or three hours, when you have a bad pass, start “poking out his eyes” for what he did wrong.
No strict rules
Your boy wants to go to the sea for a week, you say no and you take him to his grandparents, with the whole family, right in the summer when he turned 18.
Your 16-year-old daughter wants to stay out until midnight with her friends, but you bluntly tell her: “At 21.00 you are at home, if you want to go out again in the next month!” This dictatorial attitude is the surest way to form a terrible child, because the temptation of the stopped fruit speaks for itself. So stop being harsh and be a more flexible parent.
Learn to compromise with your child, give him more freedom and you will see that, with no strict rules to follow, he will no longer be so fascinated by negative things.
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Corporal punishment hurts him more
One of the biggest mistakes a parent can make is being aggressive with their child. In no case, when he makes a mistake, you must not yell, speak badly or apply corporal punishment.
He will become withdrawn, nervous, depressed or excessively shy, he will seek peace in non-educative activities: he will start skipping school, going to clubs more and more often, and he might start drinking and smoking.
That’s why, no matter how much he gets angry and no matter how much he slams the door of the room, you keep your patience and speak to him nicely. It is good to resort to jokes to lighten the atmosphere.
Is he threatening to run away from home?
It may happen that your teenager wants to take the world into his own head, either because of his surroundings or because of misunderstandings in the family.
If he “threatened” you to run away, it is good to take him seriously and discuss the reasons for possible departure. Explain the risks and how much this would affect you.
If he resorted to this measure, what you can do is to call his close friends and the Police, 48 hours after the disappearance.
Did you know that…
… terribilism in teenagers appears around the age of 14 and lasts until around age
18 years old, both for boys and girls?
