Don’t try to control his teenage process and don’t think about whether or not you are a good parent. Be with him and go through everything step by step together!
His own body surprises him
Hormonal changes during this period speak for themselves. In a span of 2-3 years, his body gained a few centimeters, kilograms, and especially hair. The changes are now obvious and fast.
During the first menstrual cycle, the first ejaculations are perceived as foreign reactions, which they cannot control and do not recognize as their own. Help him to know his body, to know what to expect!
Now he’s self-centered
He gradually begins to lay the foundations of a solid sense of identity, trying to find the answer to the questions “who am I” and “who do I want to become”.
For him, all experiences are catastrophic, no one has gone through this before, and you have no way of understanding him. That is why they live with the impression that no one can understand them.
He defies you
On you as well as on any other authority. Learn to be calm, and persevering, and remember that you have already been through this period.
He will test your limits, even if he is not now able to ascertain the natural human limits. In this way, he begins the process by which he gradually separates from his parents and matures noticing his own mistakes.
Run away from home
You know very well that teenagers do radical things, and running away from home is one of them. Either they choose to go to Vama Veche, or run away with their lover or take refuge with a friend. Sometimes they will feel the need to do something that you don’t allow them, just to get the adrenaline rush specific to their age.
All for friends
You notice that he is moving away from his family and to the same extent you see that he allies himself with a group of young people of his age. The group of friends will gradually take the place of the family, now the emotional and psychological support that the group of friends can offer is necessary.
The family must remain his safety net to return to when disappointments arise.
Peer pressure
Now is the time when he feels very connected to the group of friends, just as he depends on his parents when he is small
If we think about it, peer pressure starts from the first years of life, from kindergarten, when the usual “I won’t play with you anymore, if you don’t do as I want” appears and takes shape even better in the teenage years.
What can you do?
Teach him to cope with pressure. You will not be able to separate him from the entourage, but he will have the exercise to say NO. Allow him to tell you his point of view on every decision that concerns him. Encourage him in everything from how to choose what to eat to bedtime.
